What is Moving to fast after Divorce?

Dating after Divorce

All of the books say don't rush things. Take it slow, don't get serious. But what does any of that mean? What is taking it slow?

I ment someone since my divorce and he makes me feel like never before, I've felt feelings so strong, I've never not thought about what happens if we don't work. Its still early but I don't have to hide myself from him, he can see the good, the bad and the ugly, but at the end of the I long for the day I can make him a home, and I never felt that way before. We both come from recent divorce and children, and were scared at first but with every pasing day our future builds stonger to us. But we aren't pushing things along they are just happening as they come.

I think the aftermath of Divorce is hard enough without rules for dating and making a future for yourself. So I am going to my feelings flow as they wish but not be blinded by rose colored glasses, and continue to live my life and if and when the day comes for him and I to make ou next move not just live in our happy little bliss I am going to move forward with my eyes wide open, and heart and sole embraced around the right Love.

So any Man or Woman who finds themselves in a similiar situation and are scared to let yourself; Try it wih your eyes open,I am not say move in or get married but feel the happy that come from the right kind of love, that is easy, and when you think of karma you think "damn what did I do so right for things to things to just fall into place, if you have kids and they do to and you on't want them to meet yet so you play on "If" it works out and everytime it does Sincerely thank Karma, she's on your side.  You certainly cannot see it but I smile with not just my lips anymore I smile with whole body and sole, so believe me Karma can be your best friend not just your enemy.

The aftermath!

I was a wife and mother, but I was also a writer, student, and employee, but my posistion of wife came to abrupt end, I felt like I had failed all of these posistions; I felt like a failure as a wife, and worse I felt I destroyed my sons childhood. I didn't care about writing, or work, and took leave from school; all because one of my titles was not a good fit. How is it possible to doubt yourself on every level of you because someone else felt they needed better than me? Has that ever happened to anyone else? What did you do?

I was so scared to let myself be me again, I found the safe zone in myself where I only gave a fraction of myself and passion for everything in life to the things I did. I wasn't sad or depressed, or hated life, I was simple numb and content with that, so I didn't feel the need push myself, I baried myself deep inside almost to the point I didn't know me anymore.

I thought  was happy, and thought I was perfectly content with where I was at in life, but I was wrong, I was hybernating my way through,I wasn't happy or even moving I was stuck in my own cave not caring if spring came.

I am a very independent and strong woman, and I pride myself in getting back on the horse if I hit the dirt, but I didn't relize that I didn't get back on the horse, I traded for a pony ride and thought it was the same.

Today I had a converstion with a close and collegue and I realized I haven't tried to do anything except fly under the radar just get by, and thats not where or what I want to be, so I decided to do something about it, I have meetings set up, and goals created; so now n 30 days I can't wait to see where I am.